One day Arjuna(5 years old) was playing with his 6 years old cousin Shyam at his place. They both were enjoying their company then came the eldest cousin Deepak 8 years old. Deepak started teasing Arjuna - you are a baby, you are bad boy, we both won't play with you, come on Shyam we are not going to talk to Arjuna... after this Deepak and Shyam left Arjuna alone...He felt bad and cried for hours
This is not a only one incidence.. these kind of scenes are common between Arjuna and Deepak. He is always nasty with Arjuna... parents ignore his behavior saying Deepak behave in such a manner only with Arjuna otherwise he is good to others.
What will you call this? Isn't it bullying? ..... Why is Deepak nasty with someone and not with others? .... Simple, he is a smart boy, he knows well where he can get away with his bad behavior and where he cant. If he behaves similarly with some formal guest, parents are not going to ignore this and also he will loose his friend so he is nice to them. ...... My concern is for both Deepak as well as Arjuna. Arjuna who is subjected to bullying at this small age on regular basis will grow up with several complexes, also he can try this with someone weaker than him.... on the other hand Deepak who is enjoying this phase might be having some emotional issues which are left unattended, these can lead to different emotional problems in this child.... he may have low self worth or his need for power and control is unfulfilled. This child can grow up as bully as well... also it is possible that he is facing such behavior somewhere which he is passing to his younger brother.
What do you think are the possible solutions for this situation????
Please do suggest, waiting for your valuable suggestions.
Regards
Shweta Tilak
Psychologist
Asha usa (Mini Medicine Citi)
This is not a only one incidence.. these kind of scenes are common between Arjuna and Deepak. He is always nasty with Arjuna... parents ignore his behavior saying Deepak behave in such a manner only with Arjuna otherwise he is good to others.
What will you call this? Isn't it bullying? ..... Why is Deepak nasty with someone and not with others? .... Simple, he is a smart boy, he knows well where he can get away with his bad behavior and where he cant. If he behaves similarly with some formal guest, parents are not going to ignore this and also he will loose his friend so he is nice to them. ...... My concern is for both Deepak as well as Arjuna. Arjuna who is subjected to bullying at this small age on regular basis will grow up with several complexes, also he can try this with someone weaker than him.... on the other hand Deepak who is enjoying this phase might be having some emotional issues which are left unattended, these can lead to different emotional problems in this child.... he may have low self worth or his need for power and control is unfulfilled. This child can grow up as bully as well... also it is possible that he is facing such behavior somewhere which he is passing to his younger brother.
What do you think are the possible solutions for this situation????
Please do suggest, waiting for your valuable suggestions.
Regards
Shweta Tilak
Psychologist
Asha usa (Mini Medicine Citi)
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