Marital problems are common to all
marriages and may be both frustrating and vexing at the same time. Some common
marital problems and ways to cope up with them are mentioned below-
Communication gap or misunderstanding is
one of the most marital problems that couples come across. This may be
due to either lack of time or your unwillingness to hear out your partner with
as much zeal and ardor as you would expect from them when you have something to
share. Sometimes, if people have grown up in an abusive and violent environment, it tends to
reflect on their relationships later on in life. A person who has seen his
parents yell and shout at each other will always retort to the same in case of
an argument with his/her spouse leading to marital problems. This onerous
baggage being carried by an individual from youth is a result of many marital
problems and can be treated only through therapy. When you enter into a nuptial with a plethora of expectations and are disappointed later
on as a result of your expectations being unfulfilled, marital problems begin
to creep in. mostly these expectations cannot be even put into words. What is
worse is that the only way to deal with these insidious expectations is to
fulfill them yourself. It is not the responsibility of your spouse to cater to
your preconceived expectations. This is the
number one evil when it comes to marital problems. Infidelity is more a result of a breaking marriage than its cause.
This is no way justifies, rationalizes or vindicates cheating on your spouse.
This only points out that a well satiated person who is content in his marriage
may never look outside to fill himself up. Marriage counseling and therapy is
an option for some while others may opt to end the marriage.
Mrs. Anita Chaudhary
Clinical Psychologist
ASHA USA
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